Wedding vows are the most meaningful part of the ceremony, and it’s become a new kind of tradition to write your own. Not everyone is a writer, but everyone does experience feelings. Trying to put those feelings into words is easier than you think, especially if you follow this advice.
Talk to Your Partner
Here’s an idea, schedule a date night around the time where you start visualizing the ceremony as part of your planning process. Take that time to spend time with your fiancé and talk about what your love means, and what this wedding means to you both. If you’d like, you can lead the conversation by talking about one of your fondest memories.
Put your partner in a fun and carefree situation, and just try to talk your way through the vows. Listen to one another’s ideas, and keep an open mind.
Now for some practical tips:
- Stick to less than 200 words. That’s about 30-45 seconds of vows.
- Keep it simple! Don’t try to be Shakespeare, avoid the metaphors and tell it like it is.
- Themes are helpful. Beginning every sentence with “I promise” or “I will” will help guide your writing.
- Mad libs style templates work. It sounds crazy, but use them if you really can’t get through it on your own.
- Templates are kind of boring. Stick to mad libs. Why? Templates will require re-writing skills you may or may not feel confident of. At the very least, make sure you have some ideas on how you’d like to re-write before you start.
- Keep the same format. Nothing feels worse than one person who thinks three sentences are exactly enough to sum up their love, while their partner wrote an entire paragraph. Keeping the same format avoids that altogether.
Any tips of your own? Leave some in the comments.